女子

The following thoughts came to mind during the weekend, after a series of 喜事. first mei yue is getting marry and my mail box is full of emails with "my wedding dinner" as title. Then dear JLJ got herself a 一表人材 bf. then come those not considered 喜事. I was packing my stuff at home when i saw the letter from SDU and the 姻缘签 i got during the last CNY.

What came to my mind? I ask myself this qn during the walk home last night. What is my view of the modern lady?

Frankly, i am sure that my friends will not be surprise if i say this "唯小人与女子难养也". but that wrong. actually, i am quite surprise w my own answer too.

I feel that modern woman are fantastic. They have to work, expected to maintain the house, look after the kids n cook. No matter how their role in the society changes, the society expect them to have new roles while maintaining the old ones. Whenever the TV shows got a lady who is married but refused to have kids, my grandma will tell my grandpa, "i dont ustd the pt of getting marry when she dont want kids". to her, marry = have children.

Whenever a lady got into some big position or does something great, the identity that she is a lady will be emphasized. Whenever guys walk into the kitchen, it seems to be a big news. I always believe in "六亲不和，有孝慈；国家昏乱，有忠臣".

In the present society, guys expect lady to be able to able to 进得厨房, 出得厅堂; the boundaries of the role of man and woman are changing, but seem like only the lady boundary are extending into the guy's area while the guy boundary is not moving. The expectation of modern lady seem to be forever growing. for guys, seem like as long as there is economic growth, the rest can be controlled.

As said earlier, i myself is quite surprise by my own view. sure to be condemn by guys. I guess the reasons behind this may be my liking for 卫斯理系列 novels. after reading around 130+ books, which is abt 90% of the series, i admire the intelligence of 白素 and the support 卫斯理 gave her.


Lastly, pse stop matchmaking me. remember that 姻缘签 i got during the last CNY? it says i got no 姻缘 this year.